Learning the Do’s and Don’ts of Sexting
When you’re sexting someone not everything is fair game. Keep in mind that people have their own idea of what is acceptable. You have to be able to feel around and get an idea of what the other person likes and doesn’t like. Asking questions is always a good idea but you could potentially turn someone away by asking them if they’ll do golden showers for you. It’s an odd request that a select few people are into. SO here are some safer questions you could ask without seeming like a weirdo. etiquette
What kind of things are you into?
what are your fetishes?
Do you have any secret fetishes?
What’s your biggest fantasy?
Those are all perfectly acceptable questions to ask someone you barely know. Try to keep things on that track. If they tell you they’re into something pretty weird try to de-code that while not telling them you’re into anything more weird. For instance, if they think choking and hair pulling is weird and they’re reluctant to tell you that, coming back with, “I want to join the BDSM lifestyle” is probably not the best idea. It’s impossible to know what weird means to any one person. Just feel for it without giving away any crazy hints about what you’re into. Slowly introduce them to whatever sexual fantasies you have.
Know When They Have Had Enough
This is fairly self explanatory. Continuing on about a certain subject when the other person is clearly uncomfortable is a bad idea. You could really drive them away with this move. Try not to be overbearing. If they don’t text you back, don’t assume they’ve “ghosted” you. People have every day lives that they have to attend to before texting all day. If days have past and they haven’t replied, don’t blow up their phone, if they don’t want to talk they don’t have to. That’s the beauty of being in control of the send button and part of the appeal of sexting is that there is no “break up” If you don’t want to talk to them anymore, you don’t have to. Same thing goes for you, if you lose interest, the beautiful thing about having a phone is that you’re in control of the send button and if you don’t want to send anything back, you don’t have to.
